What is considered "good manners" may differ in different countries. What would you say are good manners nowadays? Have they changed?
Write a comment to this post where you explain what you think are good manners today.
Here are some ideas to help you:
Do you say hello to the bus driver when you step on the bus?
Would you say hello and goodbye to the teacher at the beginning or at the end of a class?
Do you use please when you ask for something?
Do you think a man should let a woman go first through a doorway?
Would you give up your seat for anyone on the bus?
Would you spit in public?
Back in the days, good manners were considered a must, and there were like unwrittened rules on how to act and behave. You learned these rules at a very young age, and they were practised throughout life....
ReplyDeleteNow a days the rules around "good manners" aren´t as easy to define. Some parents doesn´t pass the knowledge on to their children. This leads to that the unwrittened rules slowly fades away. This moral-issue most be taught to the comming generations, otherwise the "mannerless" society will become greater, and grow deeper roots.
My mother a my gradmother preached about good manners, and how to treat people etc, to me at a very young age. It wasn´t the most interesting subjuct to listen to as a 5 year-old, but it went in to my brain, and became a habit. I think that it´s just nice to say hello to strangers in the street, and to say "may I have the butter" for example. Ofcourse you can´t be in a great mood every day, and have the energy to say hello to every person you meet. But to have the "good manners" in the back of your mind is never a bad thing!
Good manners!
ReplyDeleteI think good manners are fading away. Todays youth are becoming less respectful against the elderly people. Giving up your place to a older man or woman is just a small sign. Myself I wouldn't hesitate to give up my place to them! I think it depends on how you are raised. I've been raised in a family with good standards, with parents who tells me what's right and what's wrong. More examples on having good manners are: saying hello and goodbye, open the door for women, not to spit in public.
The last example isn't very unusual, I always see people spitting in public. I do it myself too. I try to not do it alot but sometimes you can't help it.
Good manners is something everyone should have. It's not about being oversocial and such but just a simple ”hello” or a ”please” after a request for something.
Jesper Cato SPIF1
I think it is important to be nice and behave well. I know it was very important with good manners back in the days but nowdays good manners are fading away. Young people have no respect for anyone. For example: I rarley hear they be nice or even say "hi" to the bus drivers. Good maners are very important and everyone should have it and show some respect. I always say "hi" to the bus driver or when I'm in a shop. I feel better if I do that. Imagine if you get on the bus one morning and you're in a bad mood but the bus driver is very nice, don't you get "happier" or in a better mood if he's nice to you instead of being angry? It's not hard too be nice and what difference does it make if you're nice to someone. Why not start your day with a good deed?
ReplyDeleteKimia Alemtar SPIF1
Good manners are something you might think is obvious, but in my opinion it has with the person's upbringing to do. We as children learn a lot from our parents. That you should greet people and if you spit in public is something you already found out as a young child. Good behavior also have with yourself as a human to do, if you are a person who cares about others and not just yourself then the likelihood is that you treat the environment well.
ReplyDeleteI myself think that there are limits to bad and good manners. I spit public but as a teenager I think it’s normal, I have never heard someone say: That’s very disgusting. People think it is okay, but my parents certainly think it's disgusting. It is because we “lived” in different times, those who had an upbringing at that time where everyone would have good manner and they should “obey them elderly”. Today we young people almost do whatever we want to do. I greet the bus driver, not always but sometimes I do, it is bad behavior if you do not welcome back if someone says hi. There are many angles to draw the line for bad behavior, it depends on what time you grew up in.
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ReplyDeleteGood manners is important.
ReplyDeleteTo treat someone that treats you well is kind of obvious. If someone says hi to you, you say hi back. I hate the feeling you get if someone ignores you after you said Hello. You feel like a complete fool.
And to let the elderly people sit in a bus, if it's crowded i mean, is also kind of obvious. I often get up and give them my seat.
- Molly Adamsson.
I think good manners is important.
ReplyDeleteEvery time I usually take the bus, I say hello to the bus driver, it is plain to me that you should be polite. I like to say hello and goodbye to the teachers at school after classes, it's like normal. When I'm inside the bus and it is quite full of people, I think you should question "the old" if they want to sit down because they may not have such good balance. If I meet a lady on the stairs, I give place, but when I was busy so I just run up the stairs.
Today's young people think only of themselves, they do not respect other peoples.
I believe that it is important that we hold on to the manners we still have today, though they're already surely but slowly slipping away. Young people today, often don't say thank you, please etc. It might be because the manners are fading away and aren't as important as they used to be, but I also think that it has to do with the upbringing. Good manners are normal to me but that is because of my family. I grew up learning to have manners, to behave well and have respect. And some don't learn to have manners, but I think most people do. Some good manners are for instance: - say hello and goodbye. - say please and thank you. - help an elderly woman carry her bags if she needs help. - men to hold the door for women. & - give your seat to an elderly on the bus.
ReplyDeleteGood manners is fading away, thats obvious. But i think there are not noticed as much as before. The other day on the bus, a little boy moved from his seat when an old lady came in. It's like a bus rule / common sence. People still do it only not as clearly and politely as before
ReplyDeleteI think that it's important in everday life being nice and behave in a good way towards people. You should treat people in that way yo want to be treated. To say 'Hi' and 'goodbye' is a basic thing to do and something we learn in young age. When I'm go into the bus every morning when I'm on my way to school I always say 'Hi' to the bus driver, it's a habit for me. I always give up my seat if I see someone elderly who wants to sit down in the bus if it's crowded.
ReplyDeleteTo say thanks and please is some good manners too! Isn't it lovelier when people have good thoughts about you that you are a nice and a considerate person? Anyway... I think that everyone should have good manners sometimes, and show respect to others because everyone deserve to be treated in a good way!
IZABELLE SPIF
Good manners
ReplyDeleteIt is not something you can learn just over a night. It is something you learn as a small child. It is something you hear evereyday and without realising it, it grows in to you as a habit.
You reflect on your parents in this way. The things they say you need to do, is something they would have done themself. Always thank people, hold the door for others, even a smiling to stranger is in some way a good manner.
Now a days good manner has faded away. No more respect and disciplin as it use to be. It is a new generation, a generation freed from good manners.
Ajla Pivac SPIF1
Good manners
ReplyDeleteGood manners these days are fading away, quite a few teenagers are rude, they don’t say hello to the buss driver, they don’t give seats to elderly etc. One factor of why good manners are fading away is that some children may have had a harsh childhood.
I believe good manners should be naturally because I was raised by parents who raised me properly. but the times changes, for us teenagers it’s naturally to spit outside but elderly thinks it’s disrespectable.
To have good manners isn’t a hard task, it’s just about how to behave in public, don’t be rude and society would be much better!
Jacky
i think it's pretty important that you don't interrupt people when they're talking. it's "normal" to use the words 'thank you', 'please', 'you're welcome' and so on. if someone says hello to me, i say hello back.
ReplyDeletea good manner that i think is kind of important is holding up a door for anyone that is right behind you or follows you closely.
- Jessica
By peoples behavior you can see how they are as a person. Good manners back in the days was very important, which I think is important nowadays too. The youth of today have practically no respect for anyone especially not for the elderly. As a small child your parents tells you what's right and what's wrong. And at that way you grown up with a good manner, thanks to your parents!
ReplyDeleteMy parents did raise me up very well, so I, and of course lot of other people do actually have respect for the people around us. For example I always say “Hello” to the bus driver, and I even greet back when someone says “Hello”, because if I wouldn't greet back to the person, then the person maybe should feel insulted and will not greet others easily again. To hear people say “Thank you” and “ Please” when they get/ask for something, is very nice and people probably appreciate that.
And I even think it's very nice to help elderly people and give up seats for them when it is crowded on the bus. Because when I get older I hope that someone should do the same thing for me.
Sanela
I presume that good manners are fading away and that is happening quickly. About fifty years ago young people never called elderly people by their first name, they used for example Mr/Mrs/Miss. But today they barley pay attention to give their seat on the bus, and that is wrong. I believe that you learn these things at home. It is my family who have taught me to show respect and consideration towards people. I consider that parents in general have lost the grip over their children and that may be because of revolutionary things like internet, that affects their son/daughter's way of living and thinking. To not even say please/thank you when you ask/get something? I mean that is to cross the line, that is to being rude. Act human and friendly, then you have done a favor to yourself and the people around you.
ReplyDeleteI think it´s important to behave nice and to be polite to other people, just to have god manners.
ReplyDeleteFor example to say “hi” when you step on the bus, this is not a difficult thing to say yet not so many people do it. Why not? To say thanks after you received your bus ticket it´s simple. A lot of young people seemed to forgotten a lot of words and especially that god manners exist. To me good manners is not to let the girl through the doorway first, but to be nice to everyone, that the girl also holds the door for the guy. To say hi to your teacher in the hall and don’t act like she/he doesn’t excite. Why act like that when you only win on being nice. Maybe the boy you held that door for will become your boyfriend. That teacher that you never said hello to, maybe his/hers lesson will become more interesting. And the bus driver will maybe let you take the bus free when you forgot your bus money or card. The point is that you will never loose on saying polite words only win and you will feel like a good person.
Felicia Borgström
Nowadays we don't look at "good manners" the way we did no more than 50 years ago. People living in the modern day society aren't as polite as people were expected to be back then. The way of talking to other people, respecting the elderly, behaving in public and things like that have changed completely. Parents generally aren't that strict anymore and kids grow up without knowing how important it is being able to treat an other person in a decent way. Not all parents let their children get away with acting the wrong way but unfortunately, many do. One can only ask himself where it all went wrong... I believe that the way of raising children today is very different from what it used to be earlier and that people (because of new ways of thinking) don't put priority to teaching their children about good manners. Way too many adults are all busy with trying to teach their children how to "succeed" in life and how to become better than everyone else and they often forget to teach them the small but important things in life such as good manners towards other people. When todays young people progress on to the life as adults, in many cases, they have missed out on some very valuable knowledge of how you're supposed to treat others. I find good manners truly important and I think that people should pay more attention to those simple things that make our society work so much better.
ReplyDeleteChristoffer "Stoffmeister" Ahlberg
I think that good manners are very important. But unfortunately not many people use it !I think that good manners comes from your parents. Because when I was younger I was being taught that if I wanted something I had to say please and if I bumped into someone I had to apologize.I was also told that I had to give up my seat on the bus if an old person had to stand up, and I still do it because I was taught that it´s the right way. But many of todays teenagers hasen´t been told good manners from their parents. Because I don´t think that parents would teach their child/children to spit inside and to be rude against other people. I also think that good manners are diffrent in every city/town. Because if you compere a big city with a small town on the country the will still have some ”old good manners” from our grandparents youth, like men holding up doors for women and pulling out their chairs in resturants kind things that almost nobody does in the big cities anymore. Because we have an other community and have almost left the good manners behind us.
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ReplyDeleteChewing with your mouth closed, elbows off the table, greeting people you encounter on the streets you meet every day, these are all just fine examples of what good manners are. There are good manners and bad manners. Bad manners such as eating with your mouth open, burping in peoples face and spitting on the floor (which i think is just too obscene and over exaggerated and I think it should be banned) like in China (i think) well at least I heard you'd get fined if you are caught spitting in public and the worst thing you could do is stick chewing gum onto the floor. Back to my point, basically what I’m trying to say is that good manners should never die out and should be used every day. Little things like burping in front of people might be ok its natural you can't help it. There might be a group of people that you might feel comfortable with and might even burp in their face and it’s still alright because you know these people so well. Almost like an anti-manners club.
I think it's important to have good manners. You should say thank you to someone who has given you something. Leaving the seat in the bus to someone older, it proves that you have good manners. When you want something then you can always say "please" to show that you are polite. These was just some examples that you can do to show that you have good manners. Other things you should do is not mess, do not say bad words to people Especially not for the elderly. Today people are not so respectful as people for 20 years ago. I think that it is bad!
ReplyDelete/Amine Mehmedi
What I count as a good manners is to be good to the people, and not to swear when they say something bad. Good manners could even be when you show someone respect.
ReplyDelete//Ahmed
I think it is important to have good maners, and sometimes it feels like it has disappeared among the young people.I also think that it is quite basic to have good maners. For example, so if there's an older lady or a man on the bus and I see that there are no other seats avilble, I usually offer my seat.
ReplyDeleteIt also depends on how one is brought up, if your parents have taught one to say hello when you walk on the bus or if you're buying something at the store.
// Morsall Koista
Good manners are something we get to learn from a small age. Parents set rules often from the begining when the kids have an understand what´s wrong or right.
ReplyDeleteStuff your parents or an other person have told you get stuck in the back off our head and you will be using it without thinking about it. Some stuff who is so obviously now, wouldn´t have been if nobady had told you. Like you don´t just walk right to an stranger and hit the person without no reason. Or you are setting yourself in a line when you are on your way to pay in the store.
When people aren´t nice or are acting very strange/unpleasant I think it´s the parents fault (but of course people can have a bad day) becuse they haven´t learnd their kids to bahave or know limits.
I use to say good morning or hello to the bus driver in the mornings and I move if there is an old person, pregnant woman or an hurted person who stepps on the bus (if someone else haven´t alredy moved). In stores I always say hi or thank you for the help. When I meet a new person I use to shake hand directly or
with her/him. For me it´s obvious me to shake hand with an adult, but when it´s a girl/boy in my own age I shake hand after a while or present my self in an other way.
If you show good manners the an other person, the person will respond positive and be just as nice right back at you. You can come far with good manners. My mom always tells to me "A smile and good behavieour can take you further than you maybe have imagined".
"You get what you give so give good."
// felicia bruér
har råkat skriva nobady istället för nobody...
ReplyDeleteIt's interesting to read your comments on good manners! We will talk about it more in class tomorrow.
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