Please answer the following questions individually in the comments section below this post.
1. Manny says that his father is too strict and his mother too soft. What do you think his parents' reasons are for acting the way they do?
2. Manny asks himself how he could be the cause of so much grief for his parents. Is he really worried about that, do you think? Give reasons for your answer.
3. In what ways are Lisa's parents different from Manny's?
4. Do you think it helps Manny to see that other parents can be different or does it only make him feel worse?
5. Give some examples of what Manny does to rebel against his family's values. Do you think he's doing the right thing? If not, what do you think he should do?
6. Manny's teacher is worried about his grades. What do you think a teacher should do in a situation like that?
1. It's like playing good- and badcops. It makes it hard for the one who gets questioned to be consistent with your thoughts. Guilt is hard for Manjit. His parents gives Manjit alot of guilt and he can't say "no".
ReplyDelete2. Even though he doesn't like them, he can't say no to his parents. They are still connected to him. He is worried about his mom's threats of taking her life etc. He thinks that it won't happen but he can't be sure.
3. They are more free-thinking and let their kids do as they wish more than Manny's parents. For example Lisa can marry whoever she likes, it's her choice. Manny is getting a arranged marriage.
4. It's good that he can see other families who has a different way of living. Manny gets a vision on how his life could be and realises that he can live a different life.
5. He's skipping classes, stealing and smoking. Mainly because he thinks that his future wife's parents will think that he is a shame to the Punjabi-culture and won't accept the marriage. It's bad that he skips school, because of his education which can be really important later in his life.
6. I don't know really, it's hard to say. It's important to let Manny know that he can talk to someone who won't do anything about it if Manny doesn't want the person to. It's also good that his teacher is familiar with the Punjabi-culture and can understand Manny's situation.
Jesper Cato spif1
1. It´s like the good cop bad cop thing. And maybe it´s in their religion and culture for the women not to say anything.
ReplyDelete2. He already knows that he is bringing grief to the family because he´s turning against their will.
3. Lisa is kind of free and she is doing what she wants without being forced into doing other things.
4. I think it´s only makes him feel worse because he knows that his parents will never change their ways and he discovers that parents can be nice too.
5. He skips school alot and doing bad thinks. I thinks that´s is wrong because he is only ruining his own life and he doesn´t punish his parents. He´s only making them angry so they want to take him to India.
6. The teacher can´t do anything because "no one can be helped unless they want to be".
// *danne posa*
1. They are very traditional and want the "best" for Manny. That's how his parents had it when they grew up.
ReplyDeleteHis father wants him to be a man and have good future just like his brothers, it's not a good future for Manny but he can't say no because his mum keeps telling him that she will kill herself.
2. He cares about his mother, he's afraid of her killing herself. But he actually dosen't care if his family gets a bad reputation. But at the same time he tries to think about himself, his life and his own future.
3. They are more understanding than Manny's parents. They talk to their daughter about important things and help her. They are not so harsh and they let Lisa to take her own decisions and make her own misstakes.
4. Like Lisa's parents they help Manny but he also wished that his parents were the same. It can even change how he thinks about different things. To see other parents and how they treat their children makes Manny sad and he knows that he's right about his own parents, that they are too harsh against Manny and it's not right in the modern way of living.
5. He skipp classes, gets drunk, steals and other things. It's not good for him, he only hurts himself. He need to tell them that his against their way of raise him. He must tell them what HE wants, what he wants to do with his own future and marriage.
6. Try to talk to Manny about how important it is and threat him that he's going to call his parents if he doesn't do his schoolwork or improve his grades.
Kimia & Tina SPIF1
1.I think that Mannys grandfather was the same too Mannys father, so Mannys father dosen´t know how to treat them good and respectfull. Because he wasent brought up that way. And his mother is behaving like that because i think that she is afraid of her hustband. So she dosen´t have the guts to say no, stop it!!
ReplyDelete2.Yes i do think so because even if you don´t like your parents you don´t wanna dissapoint them. It´s seems like he dosen´t care but sometimes he really dosen´t care! Because he agrees of going to India but the dosen´t agrees of geting married.
3.Lisas parents are more understanding and trustfull. Because Manny can tell them anything without them getting mad at him. The might not always agree with him but the are acepting it. Lisas parents are more like a democracy and Mannys parents are a dictatiorship, where Mannys father is the leader!
4.Both, because then he knows that he can´t accept the way his parents treats him. But it can also make him feel worse because then he knows that he will never experience a good parenting.
5.He steals,skiving school, having a girlfriend and is friend with Ady. I think that it´s good that he is standing up for himself.But at the same time he is punishing himself when he is skiving classes and steals things. Because that can get him in really bad troubble! He has already been expelled and if he dosen´t have a education he can´t get a jobb, and if he dosen´t have a jobb he can´t run away!
6.They should talk with the student and help him/her in every possible way the can! Because I don´t think that it´s okey to treat anyone like that. The teacher should also encourage the student to finsih school because it will give him/her many opportunities in life!
Malin Svensson SPIF 1.
1. i think his father is strict because Manny dosen´t want to be traditional like him self and his brother. And his mother dosen´t talk very much, although we know that she always cries when Mannys father bring the hole arranged marrige up
ReplyDelete2.I think the grief comes from that Manny refuses to marry this girl from india. And he don´t want to make his parents upset.
3. Lisas parent are really open minded, they are not racists like Manny´s father, and they allow Manny´s and Lisa´relationship. and they let Lisa do wath she want.
4.i think it makes him feel worse, because he feels more diffrent than the other kids, he wants his freedom to.
5. He is skipping classes, smoking and shoplifting and it is not okey because it can destroy his future. I reallty don´t know what he can do instead, i would run away from home.
6. Obviously help him, but Manny him self is not motivated to get his grades up, so if a person is not motivated then there is not so much to do about the situation.
// Morsall Koista
1. I think it is a culture thing. In Indian cultures, the husband probably is the man in the house. So he's use to be in control and to be a boss. Bosses are often strict and he wants to protect his family and the family name. So he prefers to use tough love.
ReplyDeleteThe woman in the house isn't treated very good in their culture. His mother is inferior to the husband and her only task is to make food and take care of the children. So she is use to be inferior, she has never felt superior. I think she doesn't realize that she is treated 'bad' compared to the other women from the Westen World.
2. Even though that he might not like his parents or their opinions he still respects them. Somewere inside his heart he really loves them, and he doesn't want to loose them so he worries. He doesn't want his mother to take her life just because of a stupid thing.
3. Lisas parents aren't that strict. They want her to choose her own destiny and they allow her to do anything she wants with her life, because it is her life and not theirs. She isn't forced to get married with someone from England nor are her parents racists.
Mannys parents are the complete opposite to Lisas parents.
Both families has different way of showing love.
4. It makes him feel worse to see that all parents aren't like his. He would like a more free-thinking family. He is doubting about his descent and he feels insicure. It makes him feel like a bigger outsider than he already is. Which leads that he wants attention and starts to steal and smoke.
5. He wants attention from his family. He wants them to see that he has feelings and opinons that are outside the box, and he wants them to listen. I think he should try to talk to them and explain how he truly feels. If that doesn't work he probably doesn't have any more choices. But stealing and smoking is just wrong, you will maybe fall in a habit to steal and it will just give you problems. A human being should never steal.
6. A teacher in this situation should try to speak to his parents. He should try to explain all the benefits he will get with good grades. If the parents wont listen maybe he can arrange some extra lessons for Manny without his parents permission. He knows that Manny has potential and he is a bright young man.
An education is one of the most important thing in todays society and life, so his parents will hopefully be grateful one beautiful day.
AJLA PIVAC
SPIF1
1.He got the guilt for the "bad" things that he did. And he cant say no to his parents because his old or his brother would hit him for thäääääääät.
ReplyDelete2. I don't think they carry about him in the way that he understands it. Their worries are more like to get him married and find a job like his other brothers.
3.Lisa's parrents gives her the freedom that Manjit dreams about. For example. she wouldnt get the guilt for having a realtionship with a indian boy. Its the opposit off Manjit's parents. They freaked out when they knew about a realtionship with a white girl.
4. It helps him so he doesn't think that other parents are the same as his, but also makes him sad. He wish to have parents like Lisa's.
5. The things that he did is actually bad things. But if you think about it, its his way off "skipping" the marrige that his father wants.
6. He should try to have a meeting with him and talk with him. It's not really the teacher's bussines to put himself in his life, but since he knows that Manjit's grade was pretty high and that they felt so fast, he sure became worried.
/AAAAAAAHHHHHHHHMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEED
1. I guess Manny's mother is trying to get him to feel guilty by crying and telling him that she is going to kill herself because of him and his actions. His father was maybe brought up that way and have raised Manny's brothers that way. And they turned out the way he wanted them. Manny's father is also a stubborn man with a very specific and strict way of seeing life. He wants Manny to become like himself and Manny's brothers. Manny's father believes that Manny will change his mind and actually become like his brothers.
ReplyDelete2. I think Manny really is worried about his parents. Manny just wants to be himself and do what he wants to do. Not what his parents or brothers tells him to do. And I guess he doesnt want to be the cause of so much grief, he just wants his parents to accept him as he is. He doesnt completely get why he has to be so much grief for his parents. Why cant they let him be who he wants to be and by that, also accept Manny?
3. Lisa's parents are very open-minded and support Lisa in whatever she wants to do or who she wants to be with. Manny's parents don't do that. Lisa's parents don't have (as much) predjudices as Manny's parents do.
4. I think it both helps and makes it a bit worse for Manny. It helps in the way that he sees what it can be like. That you can have parents that support you and accept you for who you are. That he isn't imagining that there are other types of families out there. That he isnt dreaming of something that doesnt exists. And it makes him feel worse because he knows what it could be like. He could have gotten a family he wanted. He could have got lucky but he didn't.
5. Manny steals and drinks alcohol to rebel against his family's values. He is also spending time with Ady.
I think it is good that he is trying to get out of the marriage and so, but that way may not be the best. But he doesnt have that many options so he does what he can. And maybe at the time it is the best option.
6. In a situation like that, I think, a teacher should try really hard to reach out to the student. And just don't say or do the superficial stuff. A teacher should care and try. But of course if the student doesn't want help, the teacher can't force the student either. You have to meet eachother half way. But I think if a teacher shows that he/she cares and wants to help the student, the student will notice, start thinking and eventually come around.
Maya
1. because if they do that Manny will feel guilty and not have the courage to say no when mom ask something gentle.
ReplyDeleteWhen dad is strict to Manny and mom is gentle to him it makes it hard for him to just ruin they consideration.
2. As the child of a family everyone is always worried when the mom says that she will do something terrible and not because she will do it but because she is really sad and always in grief and the children usually cant stand that.
3. They dont want to take controll over Lizas live and let ther do as she wish so that she can always be happy. If they dont let Liza do as she want she may never find the happiness she wants and no parents wants their child to be unhappy.
4. If he can see how other family lives their live then he will know that theres many other different family and see the world bigger in another perspective.
5. He`s skipping classes and smoking and also stealing things. He does not accept his families wish and do the opposite things they want. the thing about trying to be criminal isnt the right decision in my case even though i dont know another way.
6.i think that the teacher should try to have a conversation with him about his though.
Andreas Li
1. I think that of course the biggest reason way Mannys parents are so weird is beacuse they brought up a son how and he didn´t turn out the way they wanted. The reason why his father is so strict with him is beacuse he was brought up that way. And he has been taught to brought up sin sons that way. As you can see the family clearly runs by his father and the mother never ever says anything. I think that the mother shows her feeling and what she thinks by crying and saying that she is going to kill herself. I don´t think that soft is the right expression for the way the mother acts. Because she is as cruel as the father she just express it in a different way.
ReplyDelete2. The reason I think that manny is worried about his parents is beacuse he knows that he can´t live the life they have planed for him and that worries him. He probably worries about what they will do to themself if he dissapoints them.
3. well, for starters Lisa´s parents are nice and they care about their daugther and the friends of their daugther. They also support Lisa´s decisons and they will alays be there for her.
4. I think it makes him feel good, but at the same time not so good. Because seeing other people having something you want and someting that is so important is hard. It´s good that he sees other parents so that he can realize that his parents are not good parents and take the chance to see a part of how parents should be.
5. By being with Ady, he is rebellious and being together with Lisa too. When he goes shoplifting he also rebels his familys values. Doing anything thats a good punjab doesn´t do, he disgrace his familys values.
6. I think that he almost should have forced the truth out about everything beacuse the teacher clearly knows that something isn´t right. It´s good that they talk a bit but the thing is that he don´t really reaches out to manny and he has a big benefit beacuse he is from India. I think that if he just would have talked to him a bit more he really could have helped him. The fact that Manny always had good grades shows that something has happened or is happening.
Felicia Borgström
1. Maybe its because in the Punjabi culture the woman has no right to say anything against her husband otherwise she'll have to face the consequences and Manny already told us in the book that his mum either asks him what he wants for dinner or bursts out crying for no reason.
ReplyDelete2.Manny is kind of worried that his mum will commit suicide even though he knows she won't but he's still not convinced. He knows that he is causing a whole lot of catastrophe not wanting to get married but he still doesn't understand why...
3. Lisa doesn't have to go through what Manny has to go through, with the being forced into marriages and all that she's free, she wants to do what she wants to do and there's no pressure occurring upon her.
4. I personally feel bad for him because he's wishing so bad that his family could be like adys' or Lisa's.
5. He's currently stealing from shops and skiving lessons to prove that he's not worthy of being married to anyone(that's what he's thinking) but it is actually making it worse for him but he doesn't know this. what he is also not thinking about is everytime he gets in contact with the police.. it is going down on his records.
6.The teacher could try his VERY absolute best to make him spill his dilemma but in this case the teacher can't really do much lets face it.
Asma//
ReplyDelete1)
ReplyDeleteThat´s what they are used to. Presumably that´s how their parents raised them - Manny´s grandfather certainly was as strict towards his son (Manny´s father), as Manny´s father is towards him now. Then, it´s not that strange that "daddy-ji" acts the way he does (him being super strict). Its all about traditions and culture. they pass over from generation to generation... but not to Manny.
Manny has seen the English society´s customs, and because of that he doesn´t really feel like taking part of the old-fashioned punjabi traditions that the rest of his family practice.
And it´s likely the same with Manny´s mother - Manny´s grandmother raised her along their society´s traditions and culture (to be a housewife in the shadow of the man,whose domain is the kitchen)- out of an objective perspective then. That´s probably the way Manny´s mother wants the women in the family to act.
That are the reasons that I see as factors for the way they act.
2)
Of course he does care, at least about his mother. well, care is mabye not the right word. when the mother threatens with killing herself, moans and cries, she gives Manny a bit of guilt feelings. although he doesn´t really believe that she´s going to kill herself, there´s always a posibility of it happening. with that ground, the thought is always in the back of his head.
If it only were for his father (accusing him for causing so much grief for the family)- he couldn´t care less. of course such accusations weighs him down. It´s not that pleasant to hear those attacks every day, but I think/I interpretate it like he doesn´t worry to much about these accusations. He takes them with a stride.
3)
*they listen to Lisa (and Manny too).
*and after they have listened to her (and him), they reason with them. they don´t just say no or dictate without explaining, and debating the subject.
*they support Manny.
*even though he does bad things, like shoplifting and skipping classes, they love him and appreciate him.
*they don´t hit Lisa or verbaly abuse her.
*they don´t force her to do things that she doesn´t want.
etc...
4)
I think that it both helps him and makes him feel worse.
To have contact with a different "good" family surely makes him feel better (I refer to Lisa´s parents).
He can ease his heart, and really talk about everything that is taboo in his family. Or it doesn´t even have to be - to talk about almost anything is out of question.
But to have contact with nice parents can also make him feel worse...
To show all of the good qualitys that Lisa´s parents have, must make him feel envious. to be stuck with that sh*t-family of his must be so frustrating.
5)
he...
*drinks
*sneaks out at night
*goes shoplifting
*skips classes
*hangs out with "that kalah" - Ady
*has a girlfriend, who´s white
All of the things he does is definately not the right thing. everything except from having a girlfriend and being best friends with Ady is pretty much wrong. Those things doesn´t benefit his attitude/standpoint. what he is trying to prove, is that you don´t have to live within such narrow frames. You can live you own life and make your own decitions. To make his point, he doesn´t have to do illegal things. He can just precede with a good example.
6)
I think a teacher shall do as he did – Seize the problem and take action.
But ultimately it´s all up to the student to change attitude towards the schooling.
One thing that the teacher could have done would be to take a bit more action. He did seize the problem, and understood that Manny has got problems at home. But he didn´t really help him with it. OK, he can´t just impose his help, but he could have been a bit more persuasive. Really talking him into taking more responsibility for his school attendance, and mabye giving him an opportunity to get help with his homework and a bit of extra attention during classes. Not just expelling him from school. I understand that there has to be a limit, but still...
/Molly Hagman
1/ They are too traditional and do not live in "modern times". They dont live in their homeland any more, they should try to fit in more after England's traditions rather than reject it.
ReplyDelete2/ No one wants to hurt their parents, but sometimes you have to do whats requested . If he really dont want to get married, he is not supposed to sacrifice his life just because the parents wants him to it.
3/ Lisa's parents are not living in a box like Manny´s. She may marry who ever she wants and decide for herself what she would do with her life. Manny gets everything served. He does not even get to pick his own wife.
4/ It is good that he'll see that not all parents are as tough. And that you should have the opportunity to decide who they want to live with and when you want to do it. But I think it makes him feel worse.
5/ He makes a lot of bad things, so that no family wants their daughter wants to marry him. For example, he smokes and steals, etc.. I think he should stand for what he wants. he does not want to get married so he will not do it.
6/Talk to him so that he at least knows that he is not doing well. and if he already knows the teacher should talk to him in private.
//marcus
1.Manjits parents are playing badcop- goodcop with him. If both are soft on him then he won´t learn what they want to teach him. Somone have to be strict and in this case it´s the father. Manjits father and mother think that they know the best for Manjit. And his mother is behaving like that because i think that she is afraid of her hustband.
ReplyDelete2. Manjit is the only kid who wants to live the life with his own rules, his parents don´t like that and i think this is the major cause to the griff. Manjit have brought pain to his parents. The parents feel that they have failed raising their son. Manjit does not want to make his parents upset but there is no other way.
3. Though both Lisas and Manjits parents wants their children to succeed they still have diffrent ways of looking at it. Lisas parents let her do what she wants to do and marry whoever she wants to. Manjits parents don´t want their son to be that free and just want him to follow the family traditons.
4.
I think you can compare this to jelousy. Manjit will never know what good parenting and this is something that will follow him the intire life. If they lived in Punjab he would not thought about it becouse it would be so common there. Maby it helps Manjit with realising that he is no treated well but in the end it just make him insicur.
5.
Manjit needs attention from the family. He draws alot of attention by doing bad things as getting drunk, steal, smoking and skipping classes. He is just hurting himself. His parents won´t care about his future so Manjit needs to stop. It does not mather if he just talk to his parents becouse apparently they know what he wants but he needs to find another way like talking to any support service like ”Bris” in sweden, they will guid him better than he will on his own.
6. I don´t think the situation will be good. Its wired to have a close realtion to the theacher becouse its easy for the theacher to base grades beyond the subject. I think that the theacher needs to talk with the prinsipal and then they can have a meeting with both Manjit and his parents.
/Jahed Ullah
1.His father had a harsh childhood, he to work under extreme conditions. He was also raised to be a praud panjabi and thanks to his harsh childhood he is very hard to Manjit. His mother on the other hand is trying to make him feel guilty, she doesn't need to be hard against Manjit because his father is already.
ReplyDelete2.I belivie that Manjit is worried about his parents because although he doesn't like they are still family, it gives a special bond no matter what. Of course he can't be sure if his mother will take her life or not. He can think that it won't happen, but will you really bet that your mother won't kill herself.
3.Lisa's parents are really thoughtful, they give Lisa a lot more freedom then Manjit's parents. They understand that people fall in love, they also let Lisa have a boyfriend no matter his origins.
4.I belivie it both helps Manjit but at the same time it makes him feel worse. When Manjit watch other parents it makes him angry at his parents, he is also feeling regret that he wasn't born in another family.
It helps Manjit because it shows Manjit how it can be like and that it doesn't always have to be like in Manjit's family.
5.Manjit is skippong classes, drinking, smoking, stealing and being cheeky to rebel against his family.
It isn't the right thing to do but he don't have any other choice because, he is under age and don't have any privilges in the society.
6.I think the teacher should try hard to find out the problem by talking to Manjit. If it still doesn't work I think the teacher should make the counsellor to talk with Manjit. The teacher should also talk to the parents and even maybe ask Manjit's friends.
/Jacky
1. Manny's parents have different ways of handling things. His father, who is a loud and confident man, goes straight at it and tells Manny exactly what he thinks - mainly what Manny has done wrong. His mother though, is a bit inferior and therefore she expresses her feelings and thoughts mostly by starting crying all of a sudden and being dramatic, such as threatening to kill herself, hoping it'll have an effect on Manny. Of course he takes in consideration what his parents say and do but since none of them are being very reasonable he thinks that his father is too strict and his mother is too soft - they're not reaching out to him the way they should.
ReplyDelete2. Since Manny's parents usually make a big scene out of things, he probably believes that he is to blame for more than he actually is. I think that he's bothered by the fact that his parents just don't understand him and that they won't let him live life the way he wants to. He thinks it's obvious that any teenager has their own will, but his parents don't share that opinion and therefore he can't understand how they can be miserable about the fact that Manny wants to live his own life - not according to tradition.
3. Lisa's parents have a different perspective of life. They don't believe that everything in life needs to be planned ahead. That probably has to do with the fact that they don't come from the same religion as Manny's parents do and they've had more opportunities to choose by themselves what to do with their lives. But they also treat Lisa the way you should treat your child (Manny's parents don't), they take her opinions in consideration and they basically let her take charge of her own life as long as she is being reasonable.
4. I think it brings him down a bit seeing other people be happy while he has to endure his own life with parents incapable of changing their mind about his life, but it can also provide him with the strength that it takes to actually make a change in life and since Manny goes through that kind of struggle every day I think he's capable of following his own will as long there are people around to support him.
5. He's shoplifting, hanging out with people his parents don't approve, he gets a girlfriend etc. The things he does are the sort of things that finally make his parents pay attention to him. Obviously his parents aren't capable of listening to Manny and they don't even bother to try so his only solution is to do these things to make them understand that he doesn't feel the way they do. That is definitely the right thing to do because if he wouldn't have stood up for himself things would have turned out even worse.
6. I think the teacher should listen to the student and try to get a hold of what's actually going on. Usually you need someone to talk to and I think that the teacher should be supportive because hopefully the student trusts the teacher and will be able to share his/her feelings easier. If you manage to reach out to each other it will be a lot easier to solve the issues. It's important that the teacher doesn't listen too much to what the parents have to say because they'll probably just claim that there are no issues - only since they can't handle it.
/Christoffer
1) His father wants his son to be raised in the same way as he was just because it's a natural thing in such families like Punjabis. It is the father's job to have all the power in the family and he must be able to have all control in the family because it's a big part of their culture. His mother never say something to Manny except from crying and saying that she would kill herself because of his behavior.
ReplyDelete2) In this case he doesn't want do as his parents (especially his dad) forces him to do, to get married with someone unknown. He wants to find his own love, it's actually not his parents decision and choise, it should be his. I know that he loves them, but sometimes they should listen and understand what he wants in his life, they can't decide his future. It's something every person must do and to learn of mistakes and so on..
3) Lisa's parents let her do almost eveything and they aren't acting in the same way as Manny's parents, and I think it is a good idea because she has the opportunity to explore life more and get married to who ever she wants to. They understand her and help her in every situation to make her feel safe. Manny's parents have planned everything for him and his future.. It seems that he has no freedom.
4) It makes him feel worse and sad but in the same time it can helps him a lot,He can compare with other parents' acting and learn from his parents mistakes. He always has someone he can talk to whenever he wants(Lisa and Lisa's parents) and it's good for him.
5) he has a girlfriend who is white called Lisa, hangs out with Ady, doesn't take school seriously, drinks, sneaks out at nights etc. He really doesn't do right things and is not acting correctly. In a way I can understand him beacuse I think there are not many teenagers who should have tolerated something like that.
6) A teacher should try to make the best of it and push him very much, talk to him in a serious way and make sure that he understands that school is important for him and his future. The teacher can also help him and give him good advices. Even if it not sounds so much, I think it can helps a lot to make a person feel better:)
// bellisen
1. Mannys parents are first of all very traditional. They raise their children on the way they was raised on, but they haven´t really realized in which country or time they live in and are raising their children in. Obviusly is´t Mannys father who makes the rules in the house of how a man should be and Mannys mother doesn´t say much except of crying and making Manny feel guilty of his chocies. Mannys father wants "mini-me´s" (<-spelling?) of him self and he got already two...
ReplyDelete2. There´s always a reason why a child doesn´t like their parent/parents and contrary. But honestly I don´t think he cares about causing greif to his family. I think he feels more sorry for how his mother are behaving then he cares. All you want is your parents to like and care about you and want YOUR best(especailly in Manny´s position).
3.
+Lisa´s parents cares first of all about her. +They help her with her homeworks and thinks school is important for her future.
+ They accept her friends(Manny) for who they are, nomatter of religon, skin color or their origin.
+Lisa can talk with her parents without getting beaten up.
+ Her dad aren´t pissed all the time and her mom are more civilized than Manny´s.
+ Lisa doesn´t have to get married at a particulary piont and she can marry anyone she want.
4. I think both. It´s good that he is able to see how a "real" family works and that you can get love from your parents and not just hate. At the same time he get´s to see a thing he really wants and he is getting it, but he can´t keep it. That must be really depressing for him.
He escapes from his reality everytime he´s at Lisas place.
5. He is shoplifting, drinks alcohol, having a grilfriend from the western, he is friend with Ady and he is skiving school.
Shoplifting and skiving school is only hurting himself cuse that is what he wants to lay his focus on (and of course Lisa & Ady). He´s putting himself in a position where he doesn´t wanna be, he wants to become a inteligent person and like Kimia and Tina said he must tell his parents what HE wants.
6. I think that the indian teacher should have seen the problem comming since he knows how this Indian familys are working. Or the teacher should have been suspicious when a top students grades drops. But I think that MAnny should have been more open about his problem to his teacher, then they might wouldn´t be have to expell him from school.
If I was a teacher I would try a bit more than what Mr..?Indian teacher did. But if the person doesn´t want to "open up" then you can´t really do something, except call his/hers parents. But I would have helped the person more on the lessons and with homework and stuff like that.
Felicia Bruér
1. I think that his mother is soft because she has to, because of Manny's father. His father is strict, he is a old fashioned man, who is following the tradition. Because perhaps himself was brought up at that way so now he does the same to Manny and his brothers.
ReplyDeleteBecause Manny's father is the boss in the house, Manny's mother has to agree and do that her husband tells her. So when she is crying she just does that to be soft and make Manny feel sorry about her.
I even think that his parents thinks that it is the best for Manny and his future, to arrange his marriage.
2.I think that Manny is a little bit worried about his parents, even though they doesn't respect or show their love to him. He definitely loves them too but hate them at the same time. Who wouldn't! Because he wants the freedom that most of his friends and kids have nowadays, to do what he wants and not what his brothers and father tell him. But it isn't easy for him too, I think he is scared to say no and argue with them.
3.Lisa's parents is much different from Manny's parents. First of all they aren't old-fashioned, then they aren't so strict with Lisa. Lisas parents help her and are there whenever she needs them and she can talk with them without that they go mad at her. She is allowed to love whoever she wants, and that her parents is accepting that. You can say that she has more freedom than Manny. His family is just the opposite of her.
4.I think that it just makes him feel worse. To know that he has a "bad" family who doesn't care about how he feels and what he wants, is just don't good. When they CAN be like Manny's cousin Ekbal's parents. Because they are also from India but Ekbals parents doesn't arrange a marriage for him. But I think that Manny has realized that it's impossible to change his perants mind to become ”good” parents.
5.Manny is doing a lot of things to rebel against his family's values, he is: Smoking, skipping classes, shoplifting etc. And of course it isn't the good thing to do, even though he's mad. But it's hard for him. I think he should instead of stealing skipping classes etc. talk to someone who could help him. He had talked with Lisa's family about his family and all that, but it looks like that they cann't do so much about that. But I'm thinking more at a school Curator, there he can say everything to her/him, how he feels and what his probelm is and so on.
6.I think that the teacher should help the student, and try to persuade him/her to realize how important the school is for his future.
Sanela
1. his father wants Manny to become like himself and not to become a shame for the family. Mannys mother is tryin' to make him feel guilty by crying.
ReplyDelete2. manny worries about his parents, he wants to live his life his way as opposed to the way his parents and brothers want him to.
He doesnt want to cause his parents grief, he wants them to accept him the way he is. He just wants to be himself and wants them to accept him the way he is.
3. Lisas parents are way different from Mannys parents. Lisas parents let her do whatever she wants, marry whoever she wants but Mannys parents are the opposite.
4. I think it makes him feel worse because Mannys family is different from Lisas. Lisa is free unlike Manny.
5. he is skipping classes, shoplifting, hes doin' the opposite of what his parents want him to do.
6. The teacher should try talk him and help him as much as possible.
/Jessica
1.The culture that his parents grew up in where the man is supposed to be in control of his family and the wife obey her husband, probably has something to do with why they are acting like they are. His father tries to rule him by violence and intimidation, while his mother tries to make him feel guilty.
ReplyDelete2.He might worry about it a little, but his main concern seems to be for his relationship with Lisa and how he's gonna keep it up while hiding it from his family. His family is wrapped up in their family reputation.
3.Lisa's parents are simply liberal about most things. They try to help Manny when they can, they don't mind Manny's origins since they consider him a good kid. While Manny's parents would go ballistic if they knew that Manny was dating someone of non Punjabi origin.
4.I think it makes him angry at his family since he wants that kind of family, but is stuck with his family who live by tradition. At the same time it might give him some kind of hope that his life can actually be different.
5.He smokes, he steals whatever he can steal without a real reason and he skips class a lot until he gets expelled from school, so that his future in-laws don't want a son-in-law like him. He probably can't try to reason with his parents, so in some odd way he is doing the right thing, even though he's throwing his life away.
6.The teacher probably can't do much, since Manny doesn't really accept his help. So the teacher is more or less useless in the situation.
// Deniz
1. Mannys mother are afraid of losing him but mannys father don't think in that directions. He's just mad and don't know how to react. Maybe he have seen to many movies?
ReplyDeleteThen we got the gender issue again. You don't scream at girls but boys need it to understand. They didn't scream at his mother but at his father when they were young. Then the father thinks that he's doing it the right way. The mother think's her way is the right way doing it.
2. He's afraid that his mother would kill her self like she have threatened with. In his second thought he thinks my life my future. Maybe it's good if she takes her life? The family will get a bad reputation and no one will give away there daugther to Manny's family.
3.Lisas parents is more open with things. You could talk to them without problem. They accepts that people are and thinks different. As Malin said they are a democracy when Mannys family is a dictatorship.
4. It's like reading two newspaper. You get two perspective of the situation and it don't hurt you.
5. Stealing, skipping classes and smoking. He has a plan of geting unpopular in the "wife candidate families". So that he don't have to marry someone that he and she don't want to. Skipping classes is ain't good. He's the only one in the family that understand the value of a good education and don't take care of it.
6. They should help him by taking to him and the person who assists him may well have been through the same situation, it helps both parties. Often you'll see if he has problems at home. person is not motivated to study and gloomy. Especially teachers should see this.
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ReplyDeleteI think that Manny's family are too traditional. They live in England, so it will be better for them to fit in a more England's traditions. His father is strict and an very old fashioned man. He don't care about the England traditions, he is only following the indian tradition. His father gets altumatiskt ”the most powerful” in the family (in their Indian traditions). Manny's mother has to agree and do that her husband tells her. She cries often just for the family to feel sorry for her, especially Manny.
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I belivie that Manjit is worried about his parents because his mother will take her life and his father is to tradition. And Manny doesn't want to marry someone he haven't met.
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Lisa can do more things wihtout thinking of her parents' reactions. Manny always need to think about what he may do and what he can not do. Lisa's family are more free-thinking while manny's family is more traditional. Lisa doesn´t have to get married at a particulary piont and she can marry anyone she want.
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He might feel a failure when he comparing his family with other families. all the other families are successful without his. Lisa can do almost everything while he may not do anything because then he will treat up his family.
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He gets drunk and steals things. It's not good for him or his family. I think it needs a better family relationshi, his parents need to ask him what he likes and not just do that themselves like. Then it can be more natural for the family to discuss things such as marriage and school. If it gets better relationships in the family, I think Manny's situation will be better.
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I think that a teacher should contact and informs the students parents and tell them about how their children deal with school. It can maybe help the students to understand better that he/she is on a wrong way. Counselor or a good teacher can also be helpful way for a student who is losing control.
/Amine Mehmedi
6. Manny says that he does not know what the cause is. Sandhu responded to the issue of bullying, but Manny can prevent this. If I had be a teacher I had contact his parents and say to them that Manny have to go to school. It is important. In the school Manny can get friends and feel better.
ReplyDelete5.He is skipping class, smoking and stealing. He doing bad things. It is not good for him and his family. He must be a good people and don´t do bad things. He also pay teacher for the homework. Manny have to take responsibility if he wants to forward and make it better for him.
4.It's like reading two newspaper. You get two perspective of the situation and it don't hurt you.
3.Lisas parents is more open and willing to talk about things, it is not Manny´s parents.
1. Mannys mother are afraid to lose him but Mannys father don't think in that directions.
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